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When attacked by rapists, most women try as much as they can to resist, an author and researcher, the late Prof Sue Lees, wrote in TheGuardianUK in 2000.
"In my survey, I found women did this in all sorts of ways: by screaming, fighting and biting, running away, refusing to cooperate, pretending they were pregnant or had AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome) and by attempting to reason,” she said.
Lees, whose research works focused on the injustices of the legal system towards rape victims, said at times, resisting worked for some rape victims while at times it didn’t.

“Much depended on where the assault took place. Most rapes are planned and rapists are careful to isolate their victim first. Resisting may be effective where there is an escape route but in an underground car park or deserted spot, or where faced with an assailant much stronger than oneself, it may not be practicable or sensible,” she said.
Of recent, rape has been a topic widely discussed in the country due to t…

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Can we talk about marriage and how everything about marriage is a deep show of love? There is a great lesson I've learnt in life, and that was after my marriage. Humanity and mother earth supports everyone who is aiming for greater and better heights.
Marriage is love and was ordained by God Almighty to unite, build, increase and bring about love amongst his people, his children.
Its six months after my marriage and I can't stop feeling guilty.
I feel guilty because I dont think I have been able to appreciate enough, everyone who came to support me, to make this possible. 
Humanity saw that I was aiming for greater heights, mother earth understood that I've made up my mind, and she brought in her troupe of Angels who rallied round to make this dream, a reality.
That 'guilt' you feel for not reaching out or appreciating enough what 'good' has been done to you, is a manifestation of the love made possible by marriage. 
Your church keeps prayi…

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Glorification of single parenthood and liberalisation of marraige values is going to put us in big trouble in this country.

One of the factors that has affected African Americans till date.

While illegitimacy rate ( children born in welfare single parenthood) is above 70%
in the black communities in the USA. And has in turn returned double digits poverty rates amongst African Americans.

Poverty rate has never been above single digits in black married families since 1964.

The black families encounter the same "racist" environments and people.
But somehow it has not led to poverty in the same proportions that it has for for those children who grew up in single parent homes. The reason for this is that the values are different, children who have the care and attention of both parents grow up better socialised,
they have different values and it has helped most of them (per statistics in comparison to those raised in single parenthood) to stay ahead of…

There are some simple and basic daily lifestyles that are often not taken serious, but are fundamental to your wellbeing as an individual. 
Some people actually think that changing their lives is something that requires a total overhaul of every aspect of their lifestyle. But we are here to make you believe that living a healthy, stress free and clean life does not require even huge capitals. All that is needed are simple daily routine of positive and life changing habits. 
Just like habits are formed gradually, changing them may not be as simple as we mentioned above but with focus and commitment, you'd at the end, appreciate all efforts you made towards your achieved goal. 
Over time, these seemingly small habits become ingrained in your routine, and sometimes may even become second nature. Small as they may be, their benefits to the mind, body, and psyche of an individual are not to be underestimated. 
Herein are ten habits you should form to transform your life for the better.
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A medical doctor on Twitter known as Aproko Doctor has clarified an age long myth about convulsion and how to manage it. The usual practice has been to put spoon in between the person's teeth to prevent him or her from dying. But contrary to this old view, Aproko Doctor is actually of the view that doing that endangers the person's life. 
According to him, all convulsions end by themselves. He emphasised that the only role we have to play is to ensure that the victim doesn't hurt themselves as we watch other him or her. 
This is what he wrote on Twitter. 
I saw someone arguing on the TL that his mother saved a person's life with palm oil or spoon when the person was convulsing. She could have killed a person. 
I have seen it happen before In most seizures, the person is unconscious and that's bad practice. 
Let me explain how. 
In your throat are two pipes, one leading to the lungs that exchange air and the other to the stomach for food. They both have a common en…

No relationship can be said to be perfect. As long as there are two different persons with different attitudes, behaviour and even background, there is bound to be at least, once a in a while, little misunderstandings. So, we are here to help outline possible ways of managing these misunderstandings and fights so that you can enjoy your relationship. Follow the steps below.

1. Relax.

Most times when you’re triggered, especiqlly in the middle of a misunderstanding, you may begin to experience increased arousal, as if you are heating and boiling up. This is whenvsome devilish inner voices will begin to tell you to destroy things like lashing out at your partner or even hitting your partner.

Do not be propelled by your impulses to respond. Your Response should be by calming yourself down, maybe by taking a series of deep breaths or counting back from 10.

You can get a hold of these moments and learn to pause. For example, you can choose between intimating and violating, between addressi…

Chai!...Wahala dey o. My ears don hear taya!

Just last night, my former school mate who lives in Enugu called to narrate an incident to me. When he finished the narration…I was just there, mute. I couldn’t immediately come up with an idea or an advice to give to him. Honestly, I don’t know what to tell him. That’s why I decided to bring it here, to hear your opinion.

The Story.

Chike, my firend is a very nice guy. He is very social, jovial and the killer of it all is that he is the husband to every young little kid along his street! He loves kids. He buys them gifts and even canes them when they misbehave, although, he does it out of love. These kids’ parents love Chike so much, especially the ones who sell beverages in front of their compound. In fact, if Chike needed to buy anything, we would just call the woman on the phone and she will send her little 10 Year Old daughter to bring whatever it is to ‘Uncle Chike’ On Sundays, whenever Chike cooks or his girlfriend is around, they coo…

A quintessential gospel artist, song writer and spirit uplifting evangelist. A wife and mother, Nenye who hails from Abia State Nigeria but married to a hubby from Enugu State Nigeria has a melodious voice and is an inspiration to younger gospel singers.

The track ABU M CHI is one of her melodious songs which just hit the airwaves and is trending worldwide! Worship God in a special way like never before and invoke God's presence in your homes, offices, in the vehicle and in the House of God.

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"No one should be closer to you or know more about you than your spouse." 

Pastor Adeboye, the Founder and General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God made a thread on Twitter about married men and women where he advised married Christians to cut off anyone who is taking their attention away from their marriage or partner.

Although his tweet had come under serious criticism especial the part where he asked his son to fire a secretary for taking his attention..

"One of my sons once told me that he was always excited to resume in the office every Monday because he would get to see his secretary again. I told him to fire her immediately. Nothing and no one is worth your marriage."

All the same, there is so much sense in his tweet and I feel you should go through it. Do not let anyone come in between you and your partner. Crush that crush!

Read through.

CRUSH THAT CRUSH !!!

Today, I will be focusing on the married. It is sad that many married people are st…

Have you ever wondered what it takes to start a successful and highly profitable barbing salon business in Nigeria? The barbing salon equipment, tools and kits needed to make your business a huge success and the talk of the town? Or how to draw a good barbing salon business plan?

You’ll find answers to all of those questions in this guide.

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It is really tough to maintain long-distance relationships. That's the truth. Let's not sugarcoat it and make it sound like fairy tales or some ideas borne out of fantasy. Being miles away from one another puts stress on the relationship because it requires an extraordinary amount of trust and dedication. It can be so frustrating to keep the connection you once had when the two of you were right beside each other.

Below are six ways to be romantic in long distance relationship

1. Send good morning text messages. It sounds sappy and can really be romantic staying connected despite the fact you are miles apart.

2. Plan date nights. Even though you are not together in a room, you can plan date nights. Some of the most fun memories of long distance dating was curling up on the couch with your phone beside you, texting your boyfriend/girlfriend and commenting on the show you both are watching.

3. Send photo texts of your day. Admire him/her, call yourself romantic name.

4. Pay atte…

The advent of Smartphones has made the world a global village where there is little or no restrictions to the flow of information that has been of tremendous help to humanity.

The ease with which information is accessed through Smartphones makes Java phones useless and an antiquity. Students can easily research using the internet over Smartphones. Businessmen and women sell and buy products online, marketers advertise their services, bloggers bring to us live news about happenings around us, articles on healthy lifestyle, morality, and other motivational posts are also accessed easily over Smartphones. Families and friends are united easily and love is found over the internet being facilitated with the use of Smartphones. Lives are also saved courtesy of the ease of messaging using application like Whatsapp, Facebook messenger, etc over Smartphones.

All these can only be possible if you have data and the connection is switched on.

This writeup comes as an advise to my brothers and s…

Life has taught me a lesson i have carried all my life and that is the necessity of giving or being charitable. Some people give a lot by the way of time and knowledge/education, but will never give away money. They will always say, 'I will give when i have extra money' and of course, there is rarely an extra to give.

Successful and smart people like myself give money as well as education. I believe firmly in giving. If you want something, all you need to do is give FIRST! When you are short of money, the magic is to give, either to your church, the poor or to your favorite charity.

If i could leave one single idea with you, it is that idea. When ever you feel 'short' or in 'need', of something, give what you want first and it will come back to you in many folds. That's exactly what it is for money.

Check around you. Poor people are more greedy than rich people. The simple explanation is that if a person was rich, that person was providing something that peop…

In our quest to make it in life; we likely keep aside a Super being in the Process; thereby hunting and struggling to see what we'd get from life and not what life(God) gives to us.

This has endeared iPraiz Horsfall, a Port Harcourt renowned and radical worshiper, after his previous single AMARACHI, to put up this inspired Prayer Song titled TAKE, cited from the book of Ephesians 5:18.

While we push for greener pastures; let's take cognizance of the only one who can make us to lie down in green pastures. In this, depression, suicide and other social vices will be far from us for God to TAKE full control.

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Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Time bomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited…