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Domestic Abuse Of Men By Women

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Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Time bomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited…

There Is No Substitute For Family. Create Time For Them. Don't Wait For The FUNERAL!

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The popular saying 'All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy' is significantly evident in the African society. We Africans live in a society where we work and slave all the days of our lives till death. A society bedeviled by poverty, corruption and greed, an insatiable people who choose to put money first before life, love and good health.

Africans will always try to imitate the whites who operate and live in a saner clime, but, we either do not imitate the right things or we just imitate half of the good ones. The world is embracing civilisation, but the African method of embracing civilisation is partial, selective and unfriendly to life and living.

Living and surviving in the African context means working from 07:00am to 10:00pm through the week without regard to love and good health which makes life worth living. I am talking about the African vacation.

The white man initiated casual and annual leave/vacation so that their staff or employees could have time for their…

Suicide: You Have To Live To Win

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"I felt like everybody was against me. There was no hope. All I needed was a way to escape this wicked world with wicked and uncaring people everywhere. I wanted to leave..."

Hold on, don't leave yet. There is hope for you.

For years, issues concerning mental health has been downplayed by Nigerians, and the government. We believe that anybody exhibiting signs of mental challenges has a spiritual problem. We have attached spirituality and diabolism to virtually everything concerning mental health.

The society itself has been bedeviled by people who would rather try to become famous through your problems instead of genuinely helping you.

People no longer care about people around them. All cases of depression and other psychological challenges have been erroneously linked to poverty.

Psychological challenges like depression, PTSD, phobia, etc, cannot be erased with money. People think that with money, all their problems are solved. I'd like to inform you that pove…

What You Should Do When Your Guy Checks Out An Attractive Woman

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Do you think its right for women to scream at their guys for looking at other ladies even when scientifically proven that he can't help it?

Yes, he can’t help it.

I have this lovely story to tell you. Remember, it’s a TRUE STORY.

I was walking down the street with my beautiful girlfriend one evening. Then from nowhere, a lovely, beautiful, and sexy lady appeared. Unconsciously, just like it could happen to any guy out there, I checked her out by casually turning my head as she passed by. I was trying to play it off cool and not get caught. But, before I could even turn my head back, I knew I’d been caught. Yet, what happened next surprised me. I was totally swept off my feet!

Instead of feeling jealous or screaming at me, or out rightly walking away, my girl just asked.. “That woman was very attractive, isn’t she?”

My jaw almost hit the ground, and I had to clarify, “What did you say?”

“That woman was attractive, don’t you think so?” she repeated.

In a split seconds I had total…

Do you know there’s a “Morning After” pill that protects against HIV? - Dr. Olu Funmilayo

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'Yes, you heard me right. It’s called HIV Post Exposure Prophylaxis'

A Nigeria medical doctor living and working in the UK, through his Twitter handle @DrOluFunmilayo recently tweeted a thread where he as our 'Our Fav Online Doctor' educated us about a drug course or treatment which can be taken immediately after having an unprotected s3x with a prostitute or a suspected HIV patient so as to prevent us from getting infected. He called it Post Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP)

Read the thread below:

If you just had a very risky unprotected s3x and you don’t want to get HIV, go to a hospital.

PS- It has to be within 72 hours of the s3x.
So What is PEP?

PEP stands for post-exposure prophylaxis. It means the act of taking antiretroviral medicines (ART) after engaging in an activity (like unprotected s3x, sharing needles etc) that can potentially expose a person to HIV.

The aim is to prevent becoming infected.
Who should take PEP?

You should go to a hospital and speak with a doctor abou…

God obviously told a Lie

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"God obviously told a Lie"..
'I beg your pardon'.

The statement was made under her breath but it was quite audible to me.

"God lied, or He probably died"

She didn't as much as look up from her seated position as she spoke.

I stared at her. I could tell she was young, and relatively slim, though I couldn't see most of her features.

She had been sitting there before I came, and since then she had barely looked up from the paper in her hand.

'Ma'am, I do not think it is good to speak in such manner about God'

We were seated in a quiet park under the natural canopy created by trees which stood side by side on both sides.

The vision of the sun setting in the horizon was in one word, glorious.

A couple sat at a far end of the park, relaxing on the green carpet grass. They were obviously having their own love feast.

The evident serenity and beauty in the environment was the primary reason I always came to the park each time I wanted to rest an…

Why Worry Over What Only God Controls?

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Life is full of challenges, obstacles and even more obstacles. On a daily basis we struggle to survive, to lead a successful life, but issues beyond our control keep coming up and its like we are losing hope.

The good news is that we can handle some of these challenges but we subject ourselves to perpetual brooding and self punishment before ever realising its something we can do. 
On the other hand, we forget that if its something we can't handle, there is nothing we can do about it other than to accept it in good fate. This is the more reason we should hand everything over to God who knows all and is able to do all. 
We suffer sleepless nights thinking and wishing we never crossed that path...but, I have a question for you. 
Question:
Those issues bothering you, is there anything you can do about them? 
Answer :Yes/No
Then WHY WORRY?

Whether your answer is yes or no, you still have no reason to break your head brooding. Hand them over to God. He will see you through.


Don't …

Ebola Virus: Identification And Prevention

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What is Ebola?

The Ebola virus is a serious and deadly disease transmitted by animals and humans. An outbreak occurred in March 2014 that began in West Africa. This outbreak has proven more deadly, severe and widespread than previous outbreaks.

What causes Ebola?

The Ebola virus belongs to the viral family Filoviridae. These virus types cause hemorrhagic fever or profuse bleeding inside and outside the body accompanied by a very high fever.

The Ebola virus likely originated in African fruit bats. It's transmitted to humans from animals. Humans can also transfer the virus to each other. Other animals known to transmit the virus include :

A. Chimpanzees

B. Forest Antelopes

C. Gorillas

D. Monkeys

E. Porcupines

Since people may handle these infected animals, the virus can be transmitted via the animal's blood and body fluids. Once people become infected with Ebola, they can transmit it to others if people come in contact with their:

A. Breast milk

B. Feaces

C. Saliva

Learn What The Bible Says About Giving

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The Holy Book encourages giving that is done voluntarily and with the right motive. It shows that such giving benefits not only the recipient but also the giver. (Proverbs 11:25;Luke 6:​38) Jesus said: “There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.”​—Acts 20:35.

When is giving beneficial?

Giving is beneficial when it is done voluntarily. “Let each one do just as he has resolved in his heart,” says the Bible, “not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.”​—2 Corinthians 9:7

Heartfelt giving is part of “the form of religion” that God approves. (James 1:​27, footnote) A person who generously helps those in need works hand in hand with God, who views such generosity as a loan made to him. (Proverbs 19:17) The Bible teaches that God himself will repay the giver.​—Luke 14:12-​14.

When is giving improper?
If it is done with ulterior motives. Examples include:

I.  To impress people.​—Matthew 6:2.

II. To receive something in return.​—Luke 14:12-14.

III. …

Intentional Bullying or Just Teasing: How It Affects Children and Students

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Bullying is the use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force them to do something. Bullies are usually blustering, quarrelsome, and overbearing individuals who habitually badger and intimidate smaller or weaker people.

No one is born a bully, in fact, no one is born a victim either. However, as negative as the word bully sounds, the victim is equally a peril as the bully to society and themselves. Both ends of the stick have equal weight in the gravity of this pretty complex subject. There is a common denominator that gives premise to the bully and victim taking the role they take; the vulnerabilities or voids both are facing in their lives.

Bullying

A bully usually has an aggressive personality with tendencies to react to situations with violence and control over their victims. They are not able to control their inhibitions and are older and stronger than their peers. They have little closeness and unity with their families, and because of lack of p…

Depression: How It Affects Your Eating Habits And What You Can Do To Start Making Healthier Choices.

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Your eating habits often suffer when you’re struggling with depression. Some people overeat and gain weight because they turn to food to lift their mood. Others find they’re too exhausted to prepare balanced meals or that they’ve lost their appetite completely.

The truth is that whether you're overeating or not eating enough, you may be using food to feel better or to cope with difficult feelings.

People become even more depressed when they feel trapped in a feeling of hopelessness about life and their poor eating habits. At this juncture, it’s important to connect with other people so you don't become too isolated. Talking with friends and a therapist can provide support to help you break out of that cycle.

These are ways depression affects your eating habit

1. Using Food for Comfort.

Many people with depression often use food to self-medicate. What they do is that they may eat to improve or avoid negative or uncomfortable feelings, like sadness, shame, and self-loathing.”

T…

Why You Should Know your Genotype Before Considering Getting Married

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A lot of Medical doctors and marriage counselors advise that couples who are about to get married should go for specific medical tests before tying the knot.

While this is very important, many couples don't heed this advice for fear of probably incompatible results, especially as regards their haemoglobin genotype, emerging to become a reason for not getting married after such a long and deep emotional investment into each other.

This can be very heart-breaking and some people might go into depression that would require psychiatric care if they're compelled to cut off the relationship and marriage after such a long time of planning about their future together.

Instead of waiting till you meet that special person with whom you will spend your lifetime before realizing the importance of such specific medical tests, why not go for these medical tests now that you're probably single or have not met that special someone yet?

Whether you're a man or woman, you should unde…

Factors That Affect Mood And Mental Disposition

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Most of us at one time or the other, have suffered mood swings. Although so many factors influence our minds and body everyday, it's still possible for you to control and take charge of your mood.

Ever woken up in a bad mood and you don't know why? It has happened ATLEAST 10 times to almost everyone! And any day you wake up in a bad mood, you end up over-stressing yourself and at the end going back home weak and angry.

I have researched and got you some, out of the many factors that influence our moods on a daily basis. Some of these factors are made up of our actions and engagements everyday of our lives. So, this means that we are partly responsible for how we feel and react to stimuli outside our environment. Now our reactions produce a response from the outside which again affect our emotions and mood either negatively or positively. It's like cyclic in nature!

1. Spending Time With Negative People
Did you know that negative moods are very contagious? It attaches to yo…

How to Stop Arguing With Your Spouse/Partner

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Do you always argue or you are finding it difficult to discuss issues calmly with your partner? Does it feel as if you are always walking through a minefield in which any step could set off an explosive dispute? Or do you always feel this inner anger that makes you want to spill it all at any slightest provocation?

If this is the case, be assured that things can greatly improve and you will go back to having a blissful and romantic relationship with your partner, the way it used to be. But first, you need to find out why you and your partner argue so much.

WHY THE ARGUMENT?

Misunderstanding is the primary cause of arguments in any human relationship. Sometimes, your partner may say something to you but it may not come out the way he or she intended. Sometimes, it's the approach.


No matter how compatible you and your spouse may seem to be, your views on some matters may certainly differ. Why? Because no two persons are exactly alike—a fact that can add either variety or tension…

Why Is Everybody Complaining About Everything?

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Everybody wants more and when they get more, they request for more.. Why?

I have been struggling to take this decision in life and that decision is to stop complaining about anything. But each time I think about this, I begin to complain unconsciously! 
This is ridiculous, right?

Life has presented to each and every one of us the opportunities to succeed and survive in our individual and respective endeavors. These opportunities are embedded with varying degrees of benefits and gains, but everyone wants more!

I have come to understand that everybody in Nigeria is a complainant, no matter the agency, parastatal, or organization where he or she works.

People complain about their work environment, welfare packages, incentives to work and meagre take home packages. And according to them, inflation rate is hitting the roof tops, thereby making it difficult for them to feed, shelter and properly take care of their families and attend to their immediate needs, hence the incessant strike actions…